The True Self Series
Welcome! Over the next ten weeks, I will be encouraging you to reflect on your true self. Your true self transcends the habits and patterns you developed during childhood, as well as your cultural influences. Your true self is the wise seed within you that strives to experience the full expression of your connection to others, your sense of purpose, your joy and the recognition of your self-worth. This authentic self is a reflection of your true nature and deepest desires.
One of the benefits of the work I do with individuals and couples is clarifying and practicing how to identify and speak from this deeper sense of self. In this series, we will look at characteristics of the true self.
I am adventurous rather than avoidant.
My relationships, my work, my roles, my life are a magnificent exploration and opportunity for my learning and growth. I assess my satisfaction and proactively take steps to create a more rewarding and connected life. This requires the courage to make requests, set up new routines, or have meaningful and vulnerable conversations. I notice when I feel anxious and my resulting impulse to retreat into avoidant behaviors, such as mindlessly perusing social media or overindulging in unhealthy foods. From this place of self-awareness, I stretch out of being stagnate and take the risk to try something new. I courageously seek out the support I need to make the changes that encourage the full expression of my authentic self. I am willing to make the necessary changes. I am excited to live from a place of inspiration.
Affirming Your Authentic Actions
Take out a piece of paper and jot down the following categories, leaving space to write notes between each one:
In each category write something you are currently doing that you really like and feels authentic to you. Now, in each category, write an affirmative statement of something you would be doing if you felt even more satisfied in that area. You will have two affirmative statements in each category. One will help you continue and the other will point you in the right direction.
Here are some examples:
Romance: I take time each day to ask my spouse/partner how their day was. I give my spouse/partner affection every day. I schedule a monthly surprise for my spouse/partner.
Family: I am playful and fun with my children. I take time to really listen to my children.
©2021 Laura Aube
In Imago therapy, I help clients learn to dialogue in a way that expresses their own authentic self while at the same time empowering the authentic self of their partner. To schedule an Imago Couples Sessions or Individual session, call (816) 359-1885.
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Thank you! Laura
Laura Aube, LPC, ATR-BC, Certified Imago Therapist
Laura Aube is a licensed Counselor in the State of Missouri. She has advanced training as a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist, as well as a fully-credentialed Art Therapist. Laura has twenty-five years of experience as a therapist and specialized expertise in grief, trauma, couples, and family therapy.