Begin to make the shifts that lead to the close, connected relationships you long to experience. Work with the theme and affirmation below. Take time to experience the word and take in the affirmation. Living from these concepts is not always easy. The words and affirmations are designed to help you become more aware and intentional in your relationships. 



I take responsibility for being self-aware.

In order to be truly responsible for my impact on others, I need to think before I act. I develop the practice of pausing before I respond or react to others. My perceptions are not the only way to see things and may come from a past painful experience. As I slow down and observe my physical or emotional response, I can reflect on my story and the possibility of creating a different experience now. Out of this place of self-awareness, I can intentionally soothe myself with a deep breath and choose a new response like listening, staying present, seeking to understand the other’s need, or opening up about my deeper fears. These practices help me move constructively toward my hopes for our relationship.


Tip:  A daily routine of quiet self-reflection is essential in developing self-awareness. Prioritizing the development of this routine will help you prepare to pause in times of stress and conflict. During times of self-reflection, you learn to slow down automatic, habitual responses that may come from a place of anger and fear. 

A daily routine might include journaling, meditating, a spiritual practice such as prayer, or simply sitting quietly. During this time, you can consider your motivation, what it is that you genuinely want to experience, or if your current behaviors are moving you in the direction you want to go. Once you are in the habit of pausing and gaining self-awareness, the possibility of choosing a new response emerges.

Identifying a new response may be challenging. In Imago Relationship Therapy, the conversations with your partner or family member lead to insights about what actions will help each of you feel understood and supported.

Individual therapy, as well as Imago Relationship Therapy, is also a place to investigate how our more reactive patterns first developed to help us cope. I often tell clients it is time to add more tools to their toolbox of responses. But just like any new tool, it takes time to become acquainted with how it works and when to use it.

In Imago Relationship Therapy, you receive expert guidance and practice using tools like curiosity, listening, receptivity, understanding, sharing feelings, and so forth. If you are interested in scheduling an Imago Relationship Session or an individual session, please call me at 816-359-1885.

©2019 Laura Aube




Imago Couples or Family Therapy: If you are interested in a private couples or family Imago Therapy session, where clients experience and practice the skills that create happy, connected relationships, call (816) 359-1885 or email I would be honored to help you on your journey of living from your true self and creating relaxed, joyful relationships.



Laura Aube, LPC, ATR-BC, Certified Imago Therapist

Phone:  (816) 359-1885
Address:  207 South Washington Street, Raymore, MO 64083

Laura Aube is licensed as a Counselor in the State of Missouri. She has advanced training as a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist, as well as a fully-credentialed Art Therapist. Laura has twenty-five years of experience as a therapist and specialized expertise in grief, trauma, couples, and family therapy.