Repeatedly doing the same thing gets us the same results. When we make a shift in our views and our approaches, everything and everyone around us will be touched by that shift and have a new experience or opportunity as a result. These weekly affirmations and tips provide you with a chance to try on a new idea or approach. They are invitations for you and those in your life to experience more profound respect and caring in your relationships.
I choose my words carefully.
I am thoughtful about the accuracy of my words, especially when I am talking about someone else. I avoid absolutes that limit my ability to see others realistically and appeal for them to defend themselves. I recognize that words like "always" and "never" are not factual and will turn the conversation to the correctness of my words rather than the issues I am attempting to address. I strive to communicate my own feelings, needs, hopes, and experiences because I am an expert on those and cannot be argued.
Tip: Learn to differentiate your judgments or opinions from your feelings. If you find yourself saying, “I feel like ...,” you are stating your opinions. If the word “like” is in the sentence, it is most likely an opinion.
For example, “I often feel lonely when you go out” is different than “I feel like you are always leaving me alone.” One is sharing your feelings, and the other is inviting an argument. The first statement will encourage the other person’s empathy and likely a request for information on what might help. The second will invite them to argue the fact that they don’t “always” leave you.
©2019 Laura Aube
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