We are drawn to the familiar. To experience something new, we need to become familiar with the thoughts and feelings in our minds and guide them to be consistent with the life of our dreams.
Our thoughts are the guiding force of our behaviors. Habitual thoughts may cause us to repeat unhappy patterns. These weekly Affirmations and Tips are designed to help you replace these habitual thoughts to enhance your life and your relationships.
I listen for the wisdom within myself and also within others.
Everyone has the spark of insight within. I listen for any potential new awareness that will contribute to my peace and happiness. Every interaction is an opportunity for my own growth and healing. I understand that language is a flawed means for communicating feelings and perceptions. So, I patiently listen and encourage others to communicate fully in order to support them accessing and articulating their unique wisdom.
The way in which I listen communicates confidence in the other person’s ability to have clarity of thought and a positive vision. By giving others space and time to fully explore and articulate themselves, I allow more meaningful communication to emerge. This can only happen by listening with anticipation that something new and insightful will emerge in the conversations.
Tip: Give the other person plenty of time to fully articulate their feelings. Make it your priority to listen rather than form a response. When others are expressing themselves to us, they are often forming a message they have never fully articulated. Initially, their communication may not completely make sense or feel accurate. However, if we are able to give them space and time and if we convey confidence that they do have something worthwhile to say, we will likely experience with them new insights and understandings.
This is most challenging and also most rewarding in conversations where we might typically feel defensive. Our defensiveness blocks our accessing wisdom. Our relationships are a potential source of great inspiration for our own improvement and advancement toward greater peace and happiness in our lives; however, for this to occur, we must learn to be open.
In Imago Dialogue, messages are mirrored back so that the speaker can hear their own words and bring clarity to their thoughts. Listeners are encouraged to empty their own minds and focus only on what the other person is saying from a place of anticipating a deeper understanding of the other person. This requires the belief that the other person has wisdom within them that is trying to bring healing, growth, and transformation. Imago Therapy gives the couples the experience of this life-enhancing way of communicating and supports them integrating it into their daily lives. To schedule an Imago Therapy session, call 816-359-1885.
©2019 Laura Aube
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Imago Relationship Therapy
Imago Relationship Therapy provides you and your partner a safe place to learn how to engage in healthy communication. Utilizing Imago Therapy with your partner can deepen your relationship and your love and acceptance of one another. In a private couples or family Imago Therapy session, you receive expert guidance and practice using tools like curiosity, listening, receptivity, and understanding.
I would be honored to help you on your journey of living from your true self and creating relaxed, joyful relationships. To learn more or schedule a session, call (816) 359-1885 or email firstname.lastname@example.org.
Laura Aube, LPC, ATR-BC, Certified Imago Therapist
Address: 207 South Washington Street, Raymore, MO 64083
Laura Aube is a licensed Counselor in the State of Missouri. She has advanced training as a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist, as well as a fully-credentialed Art Therapist. Laura has twenty-five years of experience as a therapist and specialized expertise in grief, trauma, couples, and family therapy.