We are drawn to the familiar. To experience something new, we need to become familiar with the thoughts and feelings in our minds and guide them to be consistent with the life of our dreams.
Our thoughts are the guiding force of our behaviors. Habitual thoughts may cause us to repeat unhappy patterns. These weekly Affirmations and Tips are designed to help you replace these habitual thoughts to enhance your life and your relationships.
My best self is supported by my relationships.
It is my will be in relationships that are honest, committed, encouraging, and have my best interest at heart. I know that I am worth investing time, affection, and trust in. When others see the best in me, I am able to be my best.
It is not my job to convince others to be kind or positive toward me. There is no purpose in becoming distraught when these are not the qualities they exhibit toward me. I empower myself to speak my resolve for myself and to set up the circumstances for happiness and authentic self-expression. I can do this without believing I need to change anyone.
Tip: Identify and speak your highest vision for yourself, your life, and your relationships. When your situation isn’t aligned with what you want, simply speak your desires and your values and then pause. See if your loved one would like to join you in this vision.
Decline to get angry, but rather announce your intention to disengage from hurtful behaviors, communication styles, or relationship patterns, while offering to be available for healthy interactions.
Examples of unhealthy communication include behaviors like yelling, name-calling, criticizing, ignoring, or threatening. Healthy communication includes each person speaking calmly, having the opportunity to share and be heard, and acknowledging and validating the other person’s point of view. Healthy communication includes being curious about each other’s deeper needs and hopes.
Invite your partner to create a list of healthy and unhealthy communication strategies with you. Take turns identifying and explaining examples for each category. Strive not to be defensive or accusatory when doing this exercise. It is likely that each of you has examples of unhealthy communications from which to draw from your families of origin or other relationships and friendships.
The truth is that many people grew up in families that did not have the ideal model for respectful loving communication. Your relationships now are an opportunity to grow into new ways of interacting and provide healing to one another. This does not occur overnight but rather takes effort and practice. Imago Therapy provides coaching, support, and safety to learn and experience new ways of interacting. To schedule an Imago Therapy Session call 816-359-1885.
©2019 Laura Aube
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Imago Relationship Therapy
Imago Relationship Therapy provides you and your partner a safe place to learn how to engage in healthy communication. Utilizing Imago Therapy with your partner can deepen your relationship and your love and acceptance of one another. In a private couples or family Imago Therapy session, you receive expert guidance and practice using tools like curiosity, listening, receptivity, and understanding.
I would be honored to help you on your journey of living from your true self and creating relaxed, joyful relationships. To learn more or schedule a session, call (816) 359-1885 or email firstname.lastname@example.org.
Laura Aube, LPC, ATR-BC, Certified Imago Therapist
Address: 207 South Washington Street, Raymore, MO 64083
Laura Aube is a licensed Counselor in the State of Missouri. She has advanced training as a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist, as well as a fully-credentialed Art Therapist. Laura has twenty-five years of experience as a therapist and specialized expertise in grief, trauma, couples, and family therapy.