We are drawn to the familiar. To experience something new, we need to become familiar with the thoughts and feelings in our minds and guide them to be consistent with the life of our dreams.
Our thoughts are the guiding force of our behaviors. Habitual thoughts may cause us to repeat unhappy patterns. These weekly Affirmations and Tips are designed to help you replace these habitual thoughts to enhance your life and your relationships.
I have empathy for the feelings of others.
I realize that feelings are significant and when shared they provide the potential for a heart connection. I am touched and honored when those I love share their feelings with me. I know if the feeling is in regards to me or an interaction we had, my loved one is feeling even more vulnerable to share.
I do not take their feelings personally, but rather, I let them know I appreciate being given a window into their experience. I remain open and available to hear more about their experience. Gaining a new understanding of the one I love and how they process and experience is my priority.
Tip: Remember feelings are not right or wrong, but rather they are an inner experience in the moment. By accepting our loved one’s feelings, we help them to feel deeply accepted by us. We can deepen their sense of being seen and heard by adding a meaningful feeling word that reveals we truly have tried to step into their experience. We might hear them out and based on what they say realize they may also feel overwhelmed, demeaned, or alone. By saying, “I imagine you might also feel ___________________,” our partner or loved one’s heart will likely experience our empathy.
Many of us did not grow up in an environment where feelings were encouraged, supported, or even allowed. For many people, a major benefit of therapy is to have a safe place to learn to explore their feelings and receive and support the feelings of others. In Imago Therapy, couples experience how the sharing of feelings deepens their heart connection.
If you and your partner would like to learn to talk about your deeper hurts and to learn to be a source of comfort and healing for each other, Imago Therapy is for you. If you would like to learn more about what a session would be like or to schedule a session and try the experience, call me at (816) 359-1885.
©2019 Laura Aube
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Imago Relationship Therapy
Imago Relationship Therapy provides you and your partner the experience of healthy communication. In a private couples or family Imago Therapy session, you receive expert guidance and practice using tools like curiosity, listening, receptivity, and understanding.
I would be honored to help you on your journey of living from your true self and creating relaxed, joyful relationships. To learn more or schedule a session, call (816) 359-1885 or email firstname.lastname@example.org.
Laura Aube, LPC, ATR-BC, Certified Imago Therapist
Phone: (816) 359-1885
Address: 207 South Washington Street, Raymore, MO 64083
Laura Aube is a licensed Counselor in the State of Missouri. She has advanced training as a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist, as well as a fully-credentialed Art Therapist. Laura has twenty-five years of experience as a therapist and specialized expertise in grief, trauma, couples, and family therapy.