Your thoughts are the guiding force of your behaviors. An affirmation is a thought intended to replace another thought—namely, a habitual thought which has caused us to repeat unhappy patterns.
We are drawn to the familiar. To experience something new, we need to become familiar with our thoughts and feelings and guide them to be consistent with the life of our dreams.
Use these weekly Affirmations and Tips to enhance your relationships in 2019.
My feelings guide me to a deeper understanding of myself.
I seek to be aware of my own feelings and allow them to lead me to a deeper awareness of myself. When I feel the physical cues of emotion, whether that be tightness in my chest, quickening of my heart, a lump in my throat, or butterflies in my stomach, I seek to pause and go within to inquire. The feeling has valuable information for me and may point to something that needs to be healed from the past and/or alert me to a need in the present.
I take time to reflect on my own feelings and then gently explore them with a confidante or my partner. Taking time for my feelings allows me to receive helpful information for my healing and growth. I may discover that I am projecting the past onto my current situation and I need to experience the support and love from those closest to me to have a healing experience now. Or I may discover that my feelings help me articulate a need or a boundary.
Tip: Seek to befriend your own feelings. Realize they are messages from within. Take time to develop a relationship with them by going within and inquiring about their needs. When you are angry, make it a priority to take time for yourself, go within and find what feelings lie below the anger. Anger is a reactive feeling and indicates there are more vulnerable feelings underlying. The vulnerable feelings have the potential to communicate valuable information for your relationships. For example, if you are lonely you realize you may need contact, if you are sad you may need support, if you are insecure you may need reassurance.
Many of us did not grow up in an environment where feelings were encouraged, supported, or even allowed. For many people, a major benefit of therapy is having a safe place to learn to explore their feelings and receive and support the feelings of others. In Imago Therapy, couples experience how the sharing of feelings deepens their heart connection.
If you and your partner would like to learn how to talk about your deeper hurts and to learn to be a source of comfort and healing for each other, Imago Therapy is for you. If you would like to learn more about what a session would be like or to schedule a session and try the experience, call me at 816-359-1885.
©2019 Laura Aube
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Imago Relationship Therapy
Imago Relationship Therapy provides you and your partner the experience of healthy communication. In a private couples or family Imago Therapy session, you receive expert guidance and practice using tools like curiosity, listening, receptivity, and understanding.
I would be honored to help you on your journey of living from your true self and creating relaxed, joyful relationships. To learn more or schedule a session, call (816) 359-1885 or email firstname.lastname@example.org.
Laura Aube, LPC, ATR-BC, Certified Imago Therapist
Address: 207 South Washington Street, Raymore, MO 64083
Laura Aube is a licensed Counselor in the State of Missouri. She has advanced training as a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist, as well as a fully-credentialed Art Therapist. Laura has twenty-five years of experience as a therapist and specialized expertise in grief, trauma, couples, and family therapy.