Your thoughts are the guiding force of your behaviors. An affirmation is a thought intended to replace another thought—namely, a habitual thought which has caused us to repeat unhappy patterns.
We are drawn to the familiar. To experience something new, we need to become familiar with the thoughts and feelings in our minds and guide them to be consistent with the life of our dreams.
Use these weekly Affirmations and Tips to enhance your relationships in 2019.
I trust others have an inner urge to unfold into their best self.
I trust that the goodness within those I love is inspiring their growth. I appreciate their positive desire to be their best self even though at times their route isn’t what I had imagined.
By trusting and resolving to acknowledge the best in those I love, I inspire them to be their best. Words that reflect positive assumptions about their intention are a source of encouragement. In this way, I become a safe person to share their process with.
I release the urge to show others the error of their ways. Rather, I allow my own boundaries and the behavior I model to be part of my contribution to their development. I have no need to impose unsolicited advice on others or criticize their choices. I allow them to be in their own process of learning and give them freedom to have the experiences they need to become more fully themselves.
Tip: In our most significant relationships, trusting the other's process can be very challenging and even feel like a threat to our own happiness. It takes practice to learn how to converse in a way that honors the other person and at the same time honors ourselves. Try asking others if they would like to know your concerns or thoughts before you interject without invitation. If they agree, then you know they have consciously chosen to listen to you.
Remember, your ideas, opinions, and concerns are different from their ideas, opinions, and concerns. Trust that through dialoguing there can be room for a variety of thoughts. All conversations do not need to result in an agreement but, rather, can simply be part of the growth process. All those ideas are now shared and may influence a future moment.
In Imago Therapy, the therapist creates a relational space where each person’s process, thoughts, feelings, and hopes can be safely explored. Couples find that they feel more deeply connected as they gain a new understanding of their partner.
©2018 Laura Aube
Imago Relationship Therapy
Imago Relationship Therapy provides you and your partner the experience of healthy communication. In a private couples or family Imago Therapy session, you receive expert guidance and practice using tools like curiosity, listening, receptivity, and understanding.
I would be honored to help you on your journey of living from your true self and creating relaxed, joyful relationships. To learn more or schedule a session, call (816) 359-1885 or email firstname.lastname@example.org.
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Laura Aube, LPC, ATR-BC, Certified Imago Therapist
Address: 7 South Washington Street, Raymore, MO 64083
Laura Aube is a licensed Counselor in the State of Missouri. She has advanced training as a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist, as well as a fully-credentialed Art Therapist. Laura has twenty-five years of experience as a therapist and specialized expertise in grief, trauma, couples, and family therapy.