Begin to make the shifts that lead to the close, connected relationships you long to experience. Work with the theme and affirmation below. Take time to experience the word and take in the affirmation. Living from these concepts is not always easy. The words and affirmations are designed to help you become more aware and intentional in your relationships.
I support the free will of others, and I take responsibility for my own free will.
I honor others’ freedom to make their own choices, and I am intentional in my own choices. When others make choices I don’t agree with or I feel negatively affected by, I carefully consider my own values and needs. I articulate my values with clarity and make requests respectfully. When others are willing to meet my requests, I recognize they are giving me a gift. When others are unwilling to fulfill my requests, I respectfully accept their choice. I understand they need to regard their own needs in the moment.
I remain empowered as I empower others. I consider what self-supportive choices I have in the moment. In future conversations, I will continue to provide opportunities for cooperation through gentle requests.
Tip: Requests that respect another person as having free will start with phrases like “would you be willing.” Phrasing requests with words like “would” or “will” demonstrates your understanding that others are always making choices. When others are positively responsive, express gratitude. Avoid making requests using “can” or “could,” which can feel demeaning. We “can” do a lot of things; however, we have a right to evaluate if we are currently available to meet the request.
It is very important that you empower others by accepting “no” for an answer. It may be very difficult to release the sometimes long-held feeling or belief that we need to control or pressure others in order to get our needs met. However, when those in our life discover we are respecting their free will, they often feel more motivated to cooperate and help us. This is because our closest relationships are motivated by a desire for us to be happy.
This type of respectful communication is often very different from what most of us experienced in our families of origin or have learned in our current significant relationships. Shifting to this type of communication often requires learning and practice. In Imago Relationship Therapy couples are guided to this type of respectful communication style and soon find they are functioning as a team with greater cooperation than they have had in the past.
©2018 Laura Aube
Imago Couples or Family Therapy: If you are interested in a private couples or family Imago Therapy session, where clients experience and practice the skills that create happy connected relationships, call (816) 359-1885 or email email@example.com. I would be honored to help you on your journey of living from your true self and creating relaxed, joyful relationships.
Workshop Opportunity: Do you find yourself quick to irritation or frustration with your child? Are you worried about your child’s behaviors? Learn to interact with your child in a way that meets their emotional and developmental needs at the Connected Parents/Thriving Kids Parenting Workshop.
On Saturday, November 10, 2018, attend an all-day workshop to learn how to attune with your children and create a supportive family environment. There is still time to register! Click the link below to learn more.
Connected Parents/Thriving Kids Parenting Workshop
All Day - Saturday, November 10, 2018
8:30 AM - 5:30 PM
Laura Aube, LPC, ATR-BC, Certified Imago Therapist
Address: 207 South Washington Street, Raymore, MO 64083
Laura Aube is licensed as a Counselor in the State of Missouri. She has advanced training as a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist, as well as a fully-credentialed Art Therapist. She has twenty-five years of experience as a therapist and specialized expertise in grief, trauma, couples, and family therapy.