Begin to make the shifts that lead to the close, connected relationships you long to experience. Work with the theme and affirmation below. Take time to experience the word and take in the affirmation. Living from these concepts is not always easy. The words and affirmations are designed to help you become more aware and intentional in your relationships.
I keep the lines of communication open.
I remain receptive and open to hear those I love. I understand there are times when one of us may become triggered and even reactive. In these times, I let my loved one know that his or her thoughts and feelings are important to me and I would like to pursue the conversation when we are both available to listen.
I strive to tell my full truth of what is important to me. I do not attempt to appease the other person by suppressing what I need to say, nor do I try to suppress what they have to say. Rather I ask them if they would be willing to hear my thoughts and feelings. If they agree, I share using “I statements.” When I am listening, I seek to understand fully. I am often moved to relate to those I love in new ways that honor our unique relationship.
Tip: Good communication has two important functions, listening and sharing. Listening to the other person’s feelings, needs, hopes, and so forth and sharing your own truth. It is important to find ways to have both these functions happen calmly and respectfully. When communicating, focus on how you are communicating, rather than how the other person is communicating. You are able to guide the communication to a healthy place through your own intention to calmly listen fully without a personal agenda. Ask the other person if they are feeling understood, and if not, continue in the role of listening.
Learning these skills takes practice, and Imago Therapy provides a safe setting to be guided through the most triggering of conversations. With the support of an Imago Therapist, couples experience themselves as calm and able to work through conversations that have kept them feeling stuck for a long time. If you would like to set up an Imago session for one of your important relationships, call me at (816) 359-1885. With practice, couples find themselves feeling connected more deeply than they were even at the beginning of their relationship.
©2018 Laura Aube
Imago Couples or Family Therapy: If you are interested in a private couples or family Imago Therapy session, where clients experience and practice the skills that create happy connected relationships, call (816) 359-1885 or email firstname.lastname@example.org. I would be honored to help you on your journey of living from your true self and creating relaxed, joyful relationships.
Workshop Opportunity: Do you find yourself quick to irritation or frustration with your child? Are you worried about your child’s behaviors? Learn to interact with your child in a way that meets their emotional and developmental needs at the Connected Parents/Thriving Kids Parenting Workshop.
On Saturday, November 10, 2018, attend an all-day workshop to learn how to attune with your children and create a supportive family environment. There is still time to register! Click the link below to learn more.
Connected Parents/Thriving Kids Parenting Workshop
All Day - Saturday, November 10, 2018
8:30 AM - 5:30 PM
Laura Aube, LPC, ATR-BC, Certified Imago Therapist
Address: 207 South Washington Street, Raymore, MO 64083
Laura Aube is licensed as a Counselor in the State of Missouri. She has advanced training as a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist, as well as a fully-credentialed Art Therapist. She has twenty-five years of experience as a therapist and specialized expertise in grief, trauma, couples, and family therapy.